YOU

Early one morning, before everyone else was awake I saw a vision of those three monkeys. You know those “see no evil, speak no evil, hear no evil” monkeys. That’s when it dawned on me. Sometimes in life we deal with critics and naysayers. You know those people who tell you that “you can’t do it” or “you’re not good enough”. Then there are times when the biggest critic and naysayer is yourself. Been there, done that. I’m my own worst critic. I do it without even thinking. When those times arise, you need to squash that negativity like a bug. The thing is. I would never speak to my family, friends or even strangers the way I have talked to myself. You shouldn’t either.  As of late, I’ve been working hard to change my demeanor. Everyday words and actions impact your life. Negative self-talk will bring you down so fast. As I work on this there are a few things I am doing to change. Which brings me to those monkeys, just in a new light.

See You.

Be confident in yourself. Look at yourself and see the awesome person you are. Don’t compare yourself to others. This is a biggie. What is that old saying? Comparison is the thief of joy. Be joyful.  Be your own person. Wear that crazy hat and plaid pants. Color your hair purple. YOU BE YOU! You are responsible for yourself and your happiness. Believe you are strong, and you are strong.  Believe you are smart, and you are smart. Open your eyes and look at your awesomeness. You are astonishing. You are marvelous. Repeat this and believe this. If you can’t change something you see in yourself then you need to accept and learn to love it. If you want to change and can change, then do it.

Speak you.

Talking to yourself is fabulous. There is nothing wrong with it. Really. Some of my best conversations are with me.  Yes, I have been my own worst critic, but I am learning. I am stepping outside of my box. I am making the difference. It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s not going to be easy. Just give it a go. Start by saying “I am fabulous”. You can say it out loud or you can whisper it to yourself. Say it, mean it.  Compliment yourself.  Be nice to you. Say the words you need to hear, not the words that will bring you down.  Be courageous. Congratulate yourself on being awesome. There are a wide variety of positive adjectives out there. Use them. Say them. Scream them.

Hear you.

When you do have that conversation with yourself, listen. Really listen. Say the words over again. It’s important.

If you’re like me and have been critical of yourself. Stop it right now. It’s not nice. Try a new approach. SEE YOU+SPEAK YOU+HEAR YOU=LOVE YOU.

It matters. You matter.

Take care of you,

Kim